The Gospel today speaks of the importance of addressing problems head on. If your brother sins against you, “go and tell him his fault between you and him alone.” If he still is giving you a tough time, get others to help you confront him. If he is still giving you trouble, take it up with higher authorities.
However, the first step is to try and correct the fault of someone who has sinned against us by bringing it up with that person alone. This takes a lot of guts. The reason Jesus wants us to have this conversation alone with the other person is to ensure the other person does not feel defensive. Having a one-on-one conversation encourages both persons to listen more deeply and to be comfortable enough to share what is really going on in their hearts.
We owe it to those we love to tell them the truth even if the truth is uncomfortable. This is not just for our own good. It is also because sin has consequences for the sinner. If the sinner does not correct his or her behavior, it leads to a miserable life and afterlife.
If we do not quickly tell the truth to those who have sinned against us, resentment will build up in our hearts. However, if we tell others the truth with love, the truth will set all of us free.
Fr. HolmerBACK TO LIST